How to look a life ?

Life is a God's gift. All life is precious and each of us are lucky to be born as a human being,when God had a choice of creating us into any other  living being like animal, tree or even an insect. We should feel blessed because God made us in his image and we have all the senses to look, feel, move, taste, speak and to create something new in this world.

This privileged human life also give us a sense to live every day with a new experience and learning for self and a purpose for others. With an average life span of 60 to 80 yrs., this life provides us enough opportunity to play various roles from a child to a son/daughter, brother/sister, Husband/wife, father/mother, uncle/aunt, grandfather/grandmother, Friend, Teacher, Senior, Colleagues, neighbor, citizen,leader,mentor etc. If you notice, we are constantly changing to adopt to these roles to lead a life. Moreover, all of these roles are interconnected by something called relation or relationship. Our life becomes happy when this relationship is good and stable. The trouble arises when we’re unable to balance these relationships or situations that cause us distress and frustration.

How is life changing?

In this fast moving digital world, people are only looking to gain knowledge about each and everything irrespective of its purpose. Plenty of information is flowing day in and day out through media and internet. Are they really making you happy? Most of these information are either irrelevant, misleading or misguiding. Even if it's a good one,it's either too early for our society to accept or difficult for individuals to adopt

But these are forced into our mind due to social compulsion, peer pressure or life style race !!. Why this hurry and rush? Is this change good for the society? Yes, it’s true that country is growing and adoption to the modern technology and lifestyle is important and necessary, but that can’t be done at the cost of compromising our own tradition, culture, practices, family bonds etc  which has built human values from centuries together.

In the past, we had our family elders, school teachers, temple priests, family doctors, community leaders, scholars etc., who in the name of religion, discipline, family tradition, God fear and with few other means had helped to glue the  families within the cultural boundaries. Moreover they acted as a friend, a philosopher, guide and counselor to identify and address human relationship issues. But today, neither do we have such people in the society nor do we make an attempt to build such relationships beyond our families. Instead we start developing interactions with unknown faces and people through email, chat, SMS, facebook and other social networking sites.

Change is inevitable and mankind needs to adopt to the changes in order to survive. But what’s more important is the way in which transition needs to be done. It has to be a gradual and logical process. We should not completely ignore the past and blindly jump into the new, there should be a balance. Today, these constant changes and the imbalance to adopt is causing a ripple effect in the society which in turn is affecting human behaviors.

How this change is impacting your life?

In this modern world everyone is aware that both body and mind needs to be healthy to live a happy and a peaceful life. But we more often, tend to ignore the importance and priority that needs to be given to our mind as compared to our body. Our body and mind communicates to us regularly and it does the same with more rigor whenever it’s not at ease. That’s when it becomes a disease.

Body throws signals and symptoms like head ache, cold, sneeze, pains, allergy etc to show that it's not at ease. Obviously, it triggers an immediate attention and we rush to doctor for treatment or we go for a complete heath check up to find the problem and take corrective actions.

Similarly, our mind also throws signals and symptoms like - frequent anger, depression, anxiety, sleeplessness, dislike, loneliness, Stress etc whenever it's not at ease. But we never care about these symptoms nor do we take any measures to identify the problem. Aggravation of these symptoms takes a toll on the key essence of life which is your happiness, peace of mind, your relationships, family, career, health and what not?!

So, how do we address this dis-ease in your mind?  There is a social stigma to go and approach someone about this problem. Moreover today's medical world scares you with so many jargons and terms to create a hype.

A simple solution to handle such mind related dis-ease is by going through a counselling Session as a first step before you jump into any medical conclusion.

What is Counselling ?

Counselling is an avenue for people to understand about their mental health, strength, stability, weakness and how to overcome them. It allows people to discuss their problems or any difficult feelings that they encounter.

The counsellor provides an environment that is confidential and professional where you can feel safe to consider and make an attempt to express your new ways of thinking and behavior, develop new skills, gain clarity, make your decisions strong, discover personal strengths, identify resources within yourself ,an environment that you can leverage, and find ways to address or cope with your day-to-day life situations effectively.

The counsellor does not give advice or tell you what to do or give solutions to your  problems. He facilitates awareness of yourself, and enables you to  manage your challenges better; work on improving yourself/ your relationships and  progress on the goals that you set for yourself.


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What is Marriage or Couple counselling ? 

In today’s world, the fast pace of life, pressures at work and at home, high expectations etc take a toll on relationships, especially on the couple. Conflicts keep coming up and may not get resolved.  Resentment and dissatisfaction creeps in and Intimacy is impacted.  The more you try to talk about it, the worse it becomes.

So what's the solution?. It's recommended to take a professional help through a counselling session as a couple to build the confidence back to your relationship. The counsellor is unbiased and will not take sides between you and your partner.

What's your benefit?

• Counsellor is unbiased and professional
• Collaborative process to work on your goals, no predetermined agenda
• Help you understand how external factors such as family values, religion, lifestyle and culture affect your relationship.
• Identify maladaptive patterns in interactions
• Helps you take responsibility for yourself and your relationship
• Better awareness, understanding, communication and conflict handling
• More realistic goals and expectations
• Help you learn negotiate and resolve conflicts where possible
• Effort through home works, role plays, change in thinking and behavior 

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What is Pre- Marriage Counselling or Assessment ? 

Marriage may be a universal custom but being prepared for the responsibilities and struggles in marriage does not come naturally to anyone, especially during this turning point of your life. One needs to learn about what to expect in marriage, how to strengthen bond with partner, and how to help each other grow.

Marriage is essentially about knowing more about yourself in this relationship and tolerate your partner’s flaws and shortcomings. If you wish to prepare yourself with an in-depth guidance for marriage, feel free to consult and do  Pre-Marriage assessment session .
It is important also to get into a marital relationship with reasonable expectations and an understanding of what the marital relationship means to the both of you.  Lack of knowledge about what marriage is, the responsibilities you take on, may result in disillusionment and failure of the marital relationship itself.

Pre-marriage  counselling aims to prepare couples for married life.  This entails better understanding of yourself, and your partner, expectations and an understanding of the basic requirements for marriage.

• Ideally attended by both partners, but can be applicable for one of the partners too
• Understand your own and your partners expectations, values, beliefs
• Enhance your own preparedness for married life
• Set reasonable expectations
• Clarify about the myths, apprehensions and questions regarding intimacy